I sat down today to write some thoughts & feelings about Hank. But, I find it very hard to tell you how I want to express these things about such an exceptional person. About a life that was so full of joy & sorrow. A person who touched my life in such a profound way. We all like to think that we are good & kind people, that was not me. I have always been very self destructive from my youth on. I seen no redeeming qualities in myself. But, then there was Hank. She seemed to always have a smile & kind words that would make me stop and take a new look at life. Just being around her was a true joy. Her sense of compassion for those less fortunate moved me to see that I could use my talents to help others. What I think,feel, and desire now, is I hope a small reflection of the influence she had on me. I will always be grateful for her caring about my daughter Melissa and my son Jeremy & their children and grandchild. I will not let her death keep me from doing all I can to honor her. For everyday I will remember her as my friend and mother in law. When the sun shines I will remember her smile & love, when the breeze blows her words & laughter will echo in my ears & when darkness falls it will bring to mind the loss that this family has suffered. I have been listening to music today, one song in particular is one that has always touched my heart. It's by Steve Winwood. It's called Vacant Chair. There will always be an empty place in my heart for those we have lost, but I will strive to fill it with the good that can be accomplished by following the example set by Hank. So love each other despite imperfections, treasure the time we have together, be forgiving, hope for a better tomorrow. Each of us has that choice. So as the song ends "till we meet again. I know these are just words of an imperfect person but, this is all I have to offer to those of us how are still here. May the God of all comfort be with each of you.
Sunday January 7, 2018 at 5:16 pm